Lesson 6: Using the Self to Relate to Protectors

The Self is the inner authority that harmonizes protective forces rather than engaging in power struggles with them. Unlike the Guardians or the Slayers, the Sovereign Self does not react out of fear or urgency. Instead, it approaches all parts of the psyche with curiosity, compassion, and wisdom. When we lead from this inner center, we neither force our way past the guardian nor blindly attack the dragon. We engage with these parts as allies rather than adversaries.

Cultivate Inner Presence

• Through meditation or deep breathing, come to a state of calm observation.

• When you notice a protector part, take a moment to pause and tune into your Sovereign Self.

• Imagine yourself as a wise and centered leader within your inner world, guiding rather than reacting.

Embody Your Sovereign Energy

• Stand or sit with a strong but relaxed posture, imagining a crown of light above your head.

• Speak affirmations that remind you of your authority over your inner realm: I lead with wisdom. I honor all parts of myself. I trust my ability to navigate the unknown. I can protect myself with fierce compassion. I am the loving Queen of my inner lands.

• Make decisions from this place of clarity rather than from fear or reactivity.

Dialogue with Your Inner Protectors

• Spend time in reflection or journaling to understand what your Guardian of the Gate and Dragon Slayer are protecting.

• Ask them what they need from you in order to relax their vigilance.

• Thank them for their service rather than trying to overpower them.

Moving Forward Together

When we work with, rather than against, our Guardians and Slayers, we gain access to deeper self-awareness and transformation. The goal is not to bypass our protectors but to assure them that our Sovereign Self is capable of leading. By building trust with these parts, we move toward integration, where protection is no longer a force of fear but an act of wisdom.

Through connection with the Sovereign Self, we transform struggle into guidance, obstacles into initiations, and fear into empowerment. Instead of merely battling through life, we begin to rule our inner kingdom with grace, strength, and an open heart.